Friday, February 1, 2008

Parenting lessons? Don't bother.

This in the news today:

Parenting lessons do not stop toddler tantrums, study finds:
A new study shows that parent training programmes fail to reduce behavioural problems in toddlers, suggesting that coaching on how to rear children may be a waste of time and money...
Yeah, toldja.
Talking nice lessons don't help.
Plum don't work, people.
Kids is what they is.
Why am I talking like this?
I don't know.

Anyhoo. That headline just caught my eye. Bwa-ha-ha!


Anonymous said...

My generation was one of the first to be raised on Dr. Spock. Do you know why he was so successful in influencing parenting? Because our parents used his book as a paddle!!

Matter Of Fact Mommy said...

OMG I HATE THE STUDIES... anytime any headline reads: STUDY FINDS... i block it out.

LOL, lee!

Jege (Jen) said...

My parents didnt spank us, and we turned out simply AWFUL. The most foul-mouthed, self-centered, disrespectful little urchins ever to walk the face of the earth. If I ever have kids, they WILL be spanked.

LizLSB said...

Now that I have two teens in the house, I don't know what works at all. My 13-year-old, in particular, is driving me absolutely batty. I am starting to think I should have spanked him MORE.

jwoods said...

But dog training books are another story. I recommend "Don't Shoot the Dog" by Karen Pryor.

What, you think I'm kidding? I'm serious: use the same techniques on the kids.

Jege (Jen) said...

Julia, you are correct; "don't shoot the dog" is an AMAZING book. I now use operant conditioning on my husband, coworkers, even my cats with unbelievable success. This is a must read for everyone.

crabmommy said...

ooh! Julia, jege, I think I need to get my hands on this book. I foresee a series of Crabmommy essays in which Crabmommy trains her child for an entire month according to "Don't Shoot the Dog" and we all see serious results. Just imagine the appalled sanctimommies then --"that Crabmom has gone way too far...treating her kid like a dog." I remember in birth classes saying something about "training babies" and the instructor looked at me and said "sounds like you're talking about a dog!" and I said "what's the difference?" To a reaction of shocked silence.

Jege (Jen) said...

Crabmom, you will LOVE "Don't shoot the dog"'s a little slow getting into it, but soon you start looking at every situation in your life as an opportunity to shape desired behavior, and extinguish undesired behavior.
My personal fave is "training an incompatible behavior", which I use on the hubby whenever he is surly, whiny, or otherwise a pain in the ass. Unfortunately, he discovered what I was doing (do NOT leave the book lying about, is the lesson here) and began using it on me. Which really was a win-win deal, as I engage in far too much snippyness and whining myself, and could use a little shaping (and I'm not just talking about my backfat).