tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3995876652383238082.post6314920939250301855..comments2023-08-28T05:35:23.205-07:00Comments on Crabmommy: When Parents Attack, Part 2Crabmommyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06167006707545335140noreply@blogger.comBlogger12125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3995876652383238082.post-9473670737923089312008-09-13T04:51:00.000-07:002008-09-13T04:51:00.000-07:00Thanks for a great post. For a new mother like me,...Thanks for a great post. For a new mother like me, this will be very helpful for me. I have a baby turning 2 this January. Hope to get more tips from you.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3995876652383238082.post-7546296357618135552008-08-25T13:02:00.000-07:002008-08-25T13:02:00.000-07:00Gosh it's so wierd how discipline doesn't exist th...Gosh it's so wierd how discipline doesn't exist these days. In SA you can still smack your kids! <BR/><BR/>I don't know what I think about smacking not being a parent myself, but I do know kids need discipline, without it they lack direction, boundaries, respect, well everything!<BR/><BR/>Weak, kind parenting is bad parenting!pohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00711119384786965311noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3995876652383238082.post-13695914943823379562008-08-24T21:12:00.000-07:002008-08-24T21:12:00.000-07:00WowA newborn swaddled to her chest? A newborn who ...Wow<BR/>A newborn swaddled to her chest? A newborn who only eats, sleeps, and poops? That stays in the spot that she set's him/her? Check back with softmom when she has a "spirited" or "energetic" 3 or 4 year old. You did good. Next time a mom like that tries to enforce their mommystyle just become a badgirl and say POPOFF!Crazy Mom of 3https://www.blogger.com/profile/09050398506311058108noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3995876652383238082.post-76799262061436487642008-08-22T11:35:00.000-07:002008-08-22T11:35:00.000-07:00Wow, I read the Cookie post. Let me tell you, if t...Wow, I read the Cookie post. Let me tell you, if that had been me, the police would have been called, for sure. Assault; me hitting her. Softies are not doing anyone any favors, least of all their own children. As the mother of a drama queen, I thoroughly empathize with that incident, having hauled my screaming tot from similar settings. I am usually patient with my girl, but upsets happen, you know? Any parent who thinks discipline is harsh, or that it works the same "right" way for every child really needs a clue.<BR/><BR/>Oh, and for the record, my placenta stayed in the freezer for a year before we buried it with a tree on the girl's first birthday. Yes, we eat those plums. Yes, it was a little squishy, but what else is a card-carrying home-birth enthusiast supposed to do?Annahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08160639032946554005noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3995876652383238082.post-62800946398529293232008-08-22T09:48:00.000-07:002008-08-22T09:48:00.000-07:00My friend works out at a club with daycare. The w...My friend works out at a club with daycare. The woman who runs it a Japanese immigrant with a German married name. She has a gentle sternness about how she runs the realm and it earns her the ire of a lot of softmommies. She insists that the children say 'hi' and 'bye' and 'thank you' and 'please'. One mommy got angry because the sitter insisted that her daughter say thank you to another child. The mother had already heard her child say thank you, but the daycare lady hadn't and wouldn't let the child go before she heard the thank you. Mommy was super upset over that (like saying thank you twice is a bad thing) and hasn't taken her tot back. Boy, that really showed her!<BR/><BR/>Another mommy calls her the dragon lady and recounts a time when her precious bundle was reprimanded for her rambunctiousness. She objected because it didn't fit into the way she does things which is more about negotiating. Well, OK, but this woman is taking care of infants, toddlers, and children all at once. She's got to have rules in order to keep that running smoothly and safely.<BR/><BR/>My friend, a little more old school, loves this 'dragon lady' and appreciates the discipline and kindness. I think the other parents need to get over themselves.The Boss of Youhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12597266775692604529noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3995876652383238082.post-24071490444036855682008-08-21T21:47:00.000-07:002008-08-21T21:47:00.000-07:00Indulgence is child abuse! Do your kids a favour a...Indulgence is child abuse! Do your kids a favour and raise the bar.<BR/><BR/>MommyKnows ... really I do.mommyknowshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15871730583604218957noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3995876652383238082.post-86380077791126928602008-08-21T19:09:00.000-07:002008-08-21T19:09:00.000-07:00doulamomma,I can see how some peeps might think th...doulamomma,<BR/>I can see how some peeps might think them cool. But Crabmommy has a dang job at Cookie and there are only so many things I haven't written about when it comes to new(ish) momhood. I thought them prints would get people all jiggy with opinions, one way or the other. And yes, I'm a prude when it comes to my placenta. Thrilled to bits I never got to see it.Amandahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07829207348618699058noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3995876652383238082.post-89443321963415527412008-08-21T18:37:00.000-07:002008-08-21T18:37:00.000-07:00Not commenting on the parenting, just the many ref...Not commenting on the parenting, just the many references to placenta prints lately! Crabmommy - they're cool, OK? I know they aren't for everybody, but I happen to think they are quite beautiful.<BR/>I will admit, however, that they freezer burn like everything else & tend to smell a bit meaty (in a bad way) when they are old and thaw out. TMI?DoulaMommahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17436946151898233317noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3995876652383238082.post-257022505415443922008-08-21T12:03:00.001-07:002008-08-21T12:03:00.001-07:00jill, hear hear! Good on you for your toughmommy w...jill, hear hear! Good on you for your toughmommy ways! The great irony that softmommies don't see: there is a dark road ahead for little quinny when the world doesn't handle her with kid gloves. <BR/>Amanda, thanks a ton for reading the Cookiemag piece. I know, the regi thing is hella irritating but I so appreciate your going to the post.Crabmommyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06167006707545335140noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3995876652383238082.post-1369954275700109592008-08-21T12:03:00.000-07:002008-08-21T12:03:00.000-07:00jill, hear hear! Good on you for your toughmommy w...jill, hear hear! Good on you for your toughmommy ways! The great irony that softmommies don't see: there is a dark road ahead for little quinny when the world doesn't handle her with kid gloves. <BR/>Amanda, thanks a ton for reading the Cookiemag piece. I know, the regi thing is hella irritating but I so appreciate your going to the post.Crabmommyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06167006707545335140noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3995876652383238082.post-52059399730391365702008-08-21T11:45:00.000-07:002008-08-21T11:45:00.000-07:00I couldn't comment on the cookie post, because I d...I couldn't comment on the cookie post, because I didn't want to register.<BR/><BR/>I had to chuckle at your "softmommy" comment. Those are the parents I think are doing the biggest disservice to their kids. <BR/><BR/>I am a therapist for "at-risk" adolescents, and I see far, far more "softmommy" kids than "crabmommy" kids.Amanderhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18068828462736660365noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3995876652383238082.post-34557061282884273732008-08-21T11:44:00.000-07:002008-08-21T11:44:00.000-07:00My SIL is one of those sweet talking moms. She cla...My SIL is one of those sweet talking moms. She claims that she disciplines her children, but there are never, ever any consequences when they do something wrong. Usually nothing more than a distracted "Joey, stop that." Which is sooooooooo effective, as you imagine. So while her children are running around screaming and treating people and things with absolutely no respect whatsoever I, in comparison, look like Atilla the Freaking Hun when I insist that my three year old follow the rules, not talk back, and generally behave like a civilized human being. I once took away his birthday cake eating priveleges at a family celebration when after he refused to eat his dinner and I explained to him that the consequences would be no birthday cake he still opted to get down from the table without eating more than two bites. You would have thought that I was denying him the right to breathe by the reaction I got from my ILs. It simply blows my mind. My kids are the ones who are well behaved and enjoyable to have around and yet I still get guff for being stern and strict. You can't win! I seriously had to go into therapy for it all. Leave me and my effective parenting choices alone already and do something about those wild animals that are your other grandchildren!<BR/><BR/>Phew... that felt good. lolJillhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15835303750336050596noreply@blogger.com